Ask more, listen more, pride less

Life’s not about having all the answers. Nobody has lived through everything. Nobody has it all figured out. Yet, many people act as if they did. Coincidentally, those people are the most unhappy.

Life seems to be a constant fight about being better, smarter, faster, richer. It’s like life for most people, it’s about having the answers to everything, and showing off.

But how can life be enjoyed that way? How can we find interesting relationships, or engage in interesting conversations if all we focus on is on the answers? On our answers.

By doing that, you get nothing. You aren’t better, you aren’t smarter, and you aren’t happier. You are just a sad ass.

In reality, life gets better the moment you start asking questions. The moment you open up to the unexpected. The moment you acknowledge you know nothing and begin learning from the people around you.

The only way to lead a life with loving people, interesting conversations, and overall enjoyment and happiness, is by asking better questions.

Ask questions to others: be interested in them and what they are going through. Don’t talk, just listen. And most importantly, ask questions to yourself: get out of your comfort zone, of your learned behaviors, and reflect constantly.

If you want to start asking better questions, improve your life, and develop stronger relationships with people around you, start with these:

Am I truly happy? What could I do to feel better? What am I not doing that I’d love to? What makes me most unhappy? What makes me most happy? Where do I want to go? How do I get there?

And for others, there are thousands of questions to go through, but you’ll be better of if you start with a sincere “How are you feeling?” and listening attentively.

Go out there and ask the really meaningful questions, and watch your life turn downside up.